Hi, I’m Nij Dey! I’m here to help you heal the past, strengthen your relationships, and create a life filled with clarity, confidence, and peace.
MY STORY
Today, I’m a motivational speaker, relationship coach, and certified hypnotherapist — but my journey here was far from straightforward.
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Growing up in a traditional British Indian household, the choices felt clear: doctor or engineer. Since I couldn’t stand the sight of blood, engineering became the path I followed, and I spent nearly two decades building a career in software. On the outside, everything looked settled. But inside, there was always a deeper pull, a calling to help people in a meaningful way.
Even while working full-time, evenings and weekends were spent running workshops, coaching individuals, and practicing hypnotherapy. Witnessing people transform, seeing them reclaim strength and confidence, sparked something in me that engineering never could.
Then, just before COVID, after 18 years in software engineering, I made the leap. I left that career behind and committed myself fully to coaching and therapy, following the path that had been calling all along.
But the roots of this work go far deeper than a career shift. At the age of 10, I reached a point where I wanted to end my life. Childhood trauma, bullying, and loneliness left heavy marks. That pain grew into depression, self-hatred, and low self-esteem.
Through therapy and personal growth, I slowly rebuilt myself. From someone who once struggled to get out of bed, I became someone who now guides others out of their darkest moments. From hating myself, I learned to truly appreciate who I am. From feeling worthless, I learned to live with clarity, confidence, and hope.
This is why I do what I do today. Brokenness is not the end of the story. Healing is possible, and transformation is real.
Healing from the Past
Trauma leaves marks that aren’t always visible, but they shape how we feel every day.
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I know what it’s like to carry that weight, to feel stuck, alone, and unsure if things could ever get better. As a child, I experienced bullying, loneliness, and experiences that left me questioning my own worth. For years, that pain grew into self-doubt, low self-esteem, and a feeling that I was just broken.
It wasn’t until I committed to therapy and personal growth that I began to understand what healing could actually look like. Step by step, I learned how to release old wounds, stop repeating harmful patterns, and build a sense of inner strength I didn’t know I had. That journey changed everything for me and it shapes the work I do today.
I became a trauma therapist because I wanted to be the person I wished I had when I was younger, someone to guide me through the darkness, listen without judgment, and remind me that hope is possible. I know how heavy it can feel to carry pain alone and I also know that change is possible, even when it feels impossible.
Now, I help others walk that same path. Together we focus on letting go of the past, breaking free from destructive patterns, and rediscovering the strength, clarity, and purpose that has been there all along. Healing doesn’t have to happen in isolation. There is a way forward and you do not have to walk it alone.
Lessons in Love and Connection
The Corporate Journey
Since 1999, I’ve been leading talks, workshops, and seminars aimed at helping organizations support both individuals and teams.
Drawing on professional qualifications and years of experience in corporate and therapeutic settings, my approach focuses on practical, evidence-based strategies that create meaningful impact.
I am a relationship coach and certified hypnotherapist, with experience helping people manage stress, improve confidence, and work through emotional challenges. These skills translate into the corporate world, where resilience, clarity, and effective communication are essential for performance and teamwork.
Workshops and topics I’ve facilitated include:
- Stress management
- Emotional intelligence
- Building resilience
- Conflict management
- Developing healthy self-esteem
- Overcoming procrastination
- Meditation
- And more
My sessions are designed to provide tools and strategies that support growth, enhance team collaboration, and strengthen leadership effectiveness. The goal is always to help teams and individuals work more effectively while fostering well-being and clarity.
I believe there are 2 aspects to raising your game:
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1) Embedding - creating new thought patterns and behaviours, and
2) Shedding - removing the inner resistance, especially from the past.
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Think of it like driving a car. To move forward, you need to press the accelerator and release the brakes. Embedding helps you accelerate, while shedding lets you move without restraint. Through tailored programs, I guide clients through both, helping them step into a higher level of personal and professional growth.
At the heart of it all is this principle: to raise the quality of your life, you need to raise the quality of your consciousness. That’s what I do with my clients — retrain the brain to create lasting change and help them truly raise their game.
My Motto
"Heal the past, and recreate your future."
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A lot of the time, when we're stuck or procrastinating, whether it's work/career related, or our romantic relationship, or even our health goals, the real reason is deeper than just laziness or superficial fear. When we keep going round the same cycle over and over, it often means that we need to heal something from the past. That's how we create a new future! It's exciting to know that we can thrive - not just survive - when we heal our past.
